Jay Shetty ON 3 Steps to Find Mentors and Coaches

Life is increasingly hectic each day.

Maybe you are transitioning from an eight-to-five desk job in a highrise downtown to your dining room table at home. When you throw in a pandemic and the task of juggling the demands of work and home, all while balancing your roles of employee, employer, partner, parent, and friend, you can be left feeling frazzled and frustrated. One of the most challenging aspects today is creating habits, structure, and tactics that help you perform at the highest level possible in each of those roles. Unfortunately, many feel as if they are failing or struggling in some aspect of their life.In this article, Jay Shetty takes us through three steps to help us create and maintain a healthy, productive balance in all areas of our lives.

Practicing Perspective

Jay Shetty believes our quality of life depends on how we experience it. It all comes down to perspective. How do you perceive what’s going on in your life and the world around you?“Every day, in every moment, your brain is processing information and labels it as good or bad,” Shetty explains. “Even though we do most of this automatically, we have a lot more control than we realize over how things get labeled. We can change those labels.”When faced with an unexpected situation that seems unfair or daunting, try not to focus on the negative aspects of the problem. Instead, ask yourself what opportunities you might have that you didn’t have before. Reframe the questions you ask yourself in a way that helps to overcome the negative bias in your mind. Change does not have to be bad. “You usually think of perspective as something you have and not something you do,” Jay Shetty shares. “I'm encouraging you to shift how you think about it. To practice a positive perspective, you want to learn to mindfully and kindly control your perspective. One of the ways to do that is to be more objective. Doing this can help clear out some of that confusion and help you practice a positive perspective.”

Focus

Bestselling author Daniel Goleman calls focus the hidden driver of excellence.1 Jay Shetty agrees and feels focus is one of the most potent meta-skills you can develop. Focus drives production, creates impact and allows you to feel more effective. Trying to manage multiple roles in life erodes your focus. For example, being an effective employee, an engaged partner, and a good parent are all roles that may be competing for your attention and focus. Thankfully, a simple five-minute exercise can help you develop more focus. Sit anywhere you would like in a comfortable position. Pick out one thing in your surrounding area and focus on it for five minutes. Observe every detail about that object, including the color, the shape, and what stands out the most about that object. If your mind starts to wonder, just bring yourself back to the one object. This exercise will help you keep a sharp focus for more extended periods of time. This mindful noticing will also help calm your nervous system and help you notice the world around you. “You'll be more intent and engaged in what's happening around you,” Jay Shetty explains. “That's a key element of overall effectiveness, whether at work, in relationships, or just in terms of fostering more contentment in your life.”

Life Coaching

There is a stigma keeping people from reaching out for help and support. It says that asking for help means there’s something wrong with you, and you’re a failure if you need help. That could not be farther from the truth. Everyone needs help sometimes.Have you ever thought about getting a life coach? Having a life coach isn’t always about fixing something wrong. You may already be doing well, but a coach can help you tap into that next level and unlock your potential in ways you never dreamed. A life coach helps increase your flexibility, teaches you how to adapt, and helps you be resilient. You can apply those skills to every area of your life. A life coach could be what you need to help shift your perspective by helping you see all the angles of situations and consider all opportunities available to you. They can help you identify your core values and goals and lay out the next steps you need to take to achieve those goals. Could you figure out how to do it independently by reading books and watching videos? Yes, but it's a lot of information to digest and much of it is not personalized. A coach can help you create a plan and introduce you to the people who matter. They also hold you accountable for implementing the plan. As you start to shift in your life, others around you will see and feel the change and begin to shift in their lives. “Who do you know who couldn't use some support or some reliable advice?” Jay Shetty asks. “Someone to help them feel more effective and more accomplished in one or more areas of their life? You may feel alone or unsupported, but the reality is, well-trained and experienced coaches are becoming more accessible every day.”According to data from Institute of Coaching, a nonprofit affiliate of Harvard Medical School, 80 percent of people surveyed who received coaching reported increased self-confidence. Seventy percent reported enhanced work performance, better relationships, and better communication skills. And of companies that invested in coaching for their employees, 86 percent said they more than recouped their financial investment by a measure of employee performance.2 As the world’s challenges increase now more than ever, it’s a great time to find the support and guidance a life coach can provide.

Become a Coach

Do you possess the ability to listen and provide support for others? Maybe being a life coach is something you could turn into a career. Jay Shetty created the Jay Shetty Certification School to train life coaches. If you possess listening skills, ask the right questions of friends and family. Support and help them make sense of their lives, and help create a plan to move them forward in life, you are a perfect candidate to be a life coach. Jay Shetty has years of experience in learning and teaching, and he has synthesized it into a framework called the ABCs of Coaching, a nine-step blueprint that guides people to achieve their goals. His coaching certification program, Jay Shetty Certification School, trains coaches how to use the ABCs of Coaching to help others develop insight and awareness, build new habits and commitments, and stretch to meet their potential. As a life coach, you can help others feel comfort, courage, empowerment, hope, and the excitement of possibility. Want to learn how you can join more than 150 people worldwide who have received their life coach certification through the Jay Shetty Certification School? Click here to learn more.

More From Jay Shetty

Listen to the entire On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast episode on “3 Steps to Find Mentors and Coaches” now in the iTunes store or on Spotify. For more inspirational stories and messages like this, check out Jay’s website at jayshetty.me.

1 Goleman, Daniel. Focus the Hidden Driver of Excellence. New York: Harper, 2015.

2 “Benefits of Coaching.” Institute of Coaching, March 21, 2022. https://www.instituteofcoaching.org/coaching-overview/coaching-benefits.